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Living Well with Chronic Illness - Integrate Yourself
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Dec 19, 2024
Learning to build a healthy relationship between different parts of ourself can be a valuable tool in living with chronic illness. ๐ณ๐ณ๐ณ For 1:1 wellness coaching contact Robin at info@tao-of-wellbeing.com #longcovid #cfs #wellbeing #recovery #healing #myalgicencephalomyelitis #cfsrecovery #chronicillness #chronicfatigue #mecfs #postcovid #livewellwithchronicillness
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I've been doing a lot of work with my
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counselor over the past couple of years
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about different parts of
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myself and so there's one part of myself
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when I'm having a good day and my
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symptoms are are fairly lowkey and I
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kind of have this sense of being you
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know I'm a content creator and I'm going
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to achieve stuff in the world and it's
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like my old self before I got ill going
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to quite focused on achievement and
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getting on in the world you know and
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then there's this other part of myself
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that's to be honest completely
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overwhelmed by this debilitating illness
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that I've been going through and I
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sometimes feel the image I have is like
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you know a baby that's been left in the
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woods you know it's like it's just
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crying and no one's hearing and it
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doesn't it's just desperate you know
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this horrible sense of desperation that
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can come with illness and there's that's
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just you know one kind of polarity
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between two different parts of myself
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but it can be really interesting and
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really beneficial to create a dialogue
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between those two parts and any other
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parts you identify but you know for now
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let's just talk about the really strong
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positive optimistic part and then the
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kind of really uh vulnerable fragile
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really not able to do much for itself
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part because it's suffering all these
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symptoms are kind of
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overwhelming and to create this kind of
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healthy dialogue between the two you
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know so the the more positive call them
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I don't know I'm called Robin so Robin a
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and Robin B is one way to refer to them
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some people give an illness sorry some
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people give a name to their illness and
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that's an interesting Avenue that I may
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go down myself but that's on a side
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right so there's this parts that I
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identify so the strong positive
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optimistic part Robin a needs to
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reassure this kind of vulnerable fragile
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part that's frightened and overwhelmed
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it's like I've got your back you know
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it's like I'm going to do what I can
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when I've when I've got the energy when
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my symptoms aren't too um
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intrusive I'm going to take care of you
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I'm going to you know make sure that our
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environment so it's kind of like the we
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of the parts of ourselves so we're not
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in this alone right so that Robin B The
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Fragile part is not in this alone so
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Robin a we are going to like make sure
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our environment is as conducive as
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possible you know we're going to get the
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help that we can you build a support
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network as best as we're
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able and we're going to do various
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practices that are going to help we're
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going to try and make good choices and
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just re reassure that part you know that
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someone has got their back this is kind
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of about advocacy and I'm about about to
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make another video on advocacy but it's
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a really important topic so we're we
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don't always have external advocacy so
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we we need to learn to advocate for
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ourselves and in this model for you know
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Robin a the stronger part to advocate
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for Robin be the weak and fragile part
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you know but also you know Robin be
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needs to communicate his needs to Robin
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a so it's like Robin a might be off
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trying to achieve some goal in the world
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you know trying to build a business or I
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don't know whatever it is the latest
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craze that I'm
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on you know Robin be needs to say look
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hey I need rest you know I need quiet I
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need peace you know we can't just go off
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gallivanting all the time we got to like
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you know we got to kind of take care of
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the needs of the more vulnerable part of
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oursel yeah so creating this kind of
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flow this kind of uh connection exchange
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relationship within
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ourselves can be a really important part
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of the process either of recovery if
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that's where our illness is going or at
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least acceptance of how things are and
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optimizing the quality of life within
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the constraints that we have thanks for
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watching please like And subscribe and
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I'll see you in the next video
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