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there is a huge difference between
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observation and interpretation so very
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often in conversations I hear people
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telling me what other people's motives
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are for what they're doing and they
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State this as if it is a fact rather
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than a belief or a suggestion or
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something that we might explore and ask
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them about it's treated in terms of the
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way the person is thinking as an actual
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fact and this can be really damaging to
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relationships and create a lot of
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unnecessary angst on both sides um and
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it seems to be something that people
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genuinely aren't always aware of so I
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encourage people to reflect you know
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when you're selft talking or when you're
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talking to someone about someone else
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you know are you actually adding in
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something which may not actually be the
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case and are you assuming that what
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you're adding in is a fact and talking
